A Labor Day Message from Penny Forward Founder and CEO, Chris Peterson

In the classic “Star Trek” episode, “City on the Edge of Forever,” Captain Kirk says to Edith Keeler, “Let me help. A hundred years or so from now, I believe, a famous novelist will write a classic using that theme. He’ll recommend those three words even over “I love you.”” This seemingly simple line, referencing a novel that won’t exist until 2030 in the show’s timeline, encapsulates something profoundly important: the essence of helping and feeling useful.

This phrase resonates with a timeless truth that extends beyond the Star Trek universe. It touches on a fundamental human need—the desire to contribute and be valued. Yet, in the real world, especially for many blind people, the offer of help often gets met with resistance or outright denial.

Picture this: it’s time to clear the dinner table, and the offer from a blind friend is met with a polite, “Sit down, we’ll handle it.” Need a babysitter? The response might be, “Thanks for the offer, but we have other plans.” Moving to a new house? “We have enough help, but thank you.”

We’ve all been in situations where we’ve declined help, thinking the person offering might actually be relieved. After all, clearing the table isn’t exactly exciting. Babysitting can be a chore, and moving is universally disliked. But the truth is, these simple acts of help are deeply meaningful to those who want to contribute.

In another “Star Trek” episode, “Relics,” Captain Picard tells Commander Laforge about Mr. Scott, who has been trapped in a transporter buffer for 75 years. Picard says, “One of the most important things in a person’s life is to feel useful.” This sentiment highlights the core of what many blind people experience daily—the need to be valued and contribute in meaningful ways.

Blind people often face rejection when they offer help. This rejection can lead to feelings of discouragement, depression, and the sense of being in the way. Meanwhile, society constantly sends mixed messages: we’re encouraged to volunteer, to get jobs, to learn new skills, and to strive for perfection, all while being judged by the sighted world.

So, what’s the solution? How can we navigate this complex landscape? One approach might be to shift our perspective from asking, “Let me help?” to stating, “I’m going to help, and here’s what I’ll do.”

Instead of waiting for an invitation, take initiative. If it’s time to clear the table, pick up an item and follow someone to the kitchen. If you’re unsure where to put it, hand it to someone. Offering to babysit? Simply ask, “What time should I be there?” Helping with a move? Start by climbing into the truck and moving items up to the front.

These actions, though seemingly small, are significant. They show a willingness to contribute and an understanding that even the smallest help can be valuable.

For those of you who might be on the receiving end of such offers, consider the impact of declining help. Like Mr. Scott, people with disabilities—blind people in particular—have honed unique problem-solving skills throughout their lives. These skills extend into all areas of their lives, including the ability to be an invaluable member of any team.

Embracing these offers not only helps people feel appreciated and useful but also enriches your own experience. Inclusion means recognizing and valuing everyone’s contributions, regardless of their physical abilities.

So, next time someone offers to help, take a moment to consider the value of their contribution. And for those offering help, remember that your initiative is more than just a gesture—it’s a vital part of fostering inclusion and mutual respect.

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Happy Labor Day,

Chris Peterson, AFC®
Founder and CEO, Penny Forward